Do You Want To Build a Snowman?
One of the crazy things about being a parent is that no matter what sacrifices you do for your kids, it often goes unnoticed and it sometimes gets ignored. I am the father of two wonderful, rambunctious, pretty girls — Keila who is 7 and Kari, 4. Much like the characters in the movie “Frozen”, Elsa the older sister and Anna the young spitfire of a girl, our kids kind of mirror the playfulness of these characters especially during the first part of the film.
One of their favorite lines in the movie is the one in the song that goes, “Do you wanna build a snowman? Come on let’s go and play…”.
Asking someone to build a snowman for you in the middle of summer in a tropical country like the Philippines can be seen as either a clueless afterthought or something unthinkable but when it comes to these girls, their imagination holds no limits.
This is where we come in as parents.
Scripture tells us in Psalm 127:1-2 (ESV):
Unless the Lord builds the house,
those who build it labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
the watchman stays awake in vain
As parents, these verses assume two things: we are builders and watchmen.
Builders in the sense that we are part and parcel responsible for the future of our little ones, building their lives one day at a time, one event at a time, one important memory at a time.
As watchmen, we are called to guard over them, protect them and to see to it that no harm comes upon them under our “watch”.
It also tells us that while these things take effort and time to do, no matter how hard we sacrifice and how long we do it, it is useless unless it’s done by the Lord.
Granted how hard the work of parenting is, we need to remember that it’s not solely our job to build and watch over our children. “Unless the Lord…” tells us that the primary work of parenting is God’s work. It’s His job after all and not ours. If He’s not the one doing it, we “labor in vain” and we “stay awake in vain”.
Sure, parenting can be tough. It can be thankless, but knowing that this is not a battle we do alone gives us the confidence and assurance that there is hope for us parents. We “build” hard, we “watch” hard but at the end of the day, who are we building our children and families upon? Our own work or upon God, who blesses our work if we only realize that it’s His work through us that is what parenting is all about.